
Before You Tie
What you need to know before you put rope on another person—or let someone put rope on you.
Rope bondage begins long before the rope comes out. Before learning ties, it is important to understand the context in which rope is used: consent, communication, risk, partner selection, negotiation, scene planning, and what to do when something does not go as expected. This course gives you the practical knowledge you need to approach rope more thoughtfully and responsibly, whether you plan to tie others, be tied yourself, or both. You will learn how to find and evaluate partners, discuss boundaries and expectations, recognize common physical and emotional risks, plan a scene, monitor safety, and handle aftercare. You will also gain a better understanding of BDSM culture and the shared expectations that help people interact safely and respectfully. These are not optional preliminaries. They are part of the Foundation for creating rope experiences that are more intentional, risk-aware, and more rewarding.
What you'll learn
- Define core shibari terminology and participant roles, and explain how the rope and BDSM communities — including relevant legal considerations — fit together
- Apply the principles of authentic, informed, and explicit consent, including recognizing when consent is absent and how to revoke it at any time
- Recognize and respond to consent violations, and know how to act if you are approached about one
- Find, vet, and negotiate with a partner by defining roles, limits, safe words, medical considerations, and safe calls before tying
- Identify the physical risks of rope — rope marks, bruising, musculoskeletal stress, and breathing and positional concerns — and respond using tools like R.I.C.E. and emergency rope cutting
- Perform circulation, nerve, sensory, and motor checks, then plan a full scene from preparation through immediate aftercare and post-scene processing
Your learning path
14 lessons · 95 topicsSeven stops from first principles to finishing touches — follow them in order.
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Behavioral Expectations & Guidelines
10 topics12Overview13Privacy is Vitally Important14Don’t Make Assumptions About Anything or Anyone15Be Honest16Don’t Come Off as Desperate17Build Confidence Through Experience18Treat Everyone with Respect19There is no “One True Way” ... Despite What Some May Try to Say20Ask Permission Before Touching Another Person or Their Belongings. Always.21*YOU* are Responsible for Your Own Safety - 4
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A Framework for Successful BDSM Encounters
2 topics - 7
1. Finding a Potential Rope Partner
4 topics - 8
2. Vetting a Potential Rope Partner
5 topics - 9
3. General Scene Negotiation & Planning
17 topics44Overview45Be Honest and Complete About the Things You Choose to Share46Who Will be Involved, What are their Roles and Expected Forms of Address?47Type of experience / mood48Approved Activities (i.e., interests and limits)49Term / Duration50Learning to Read Your Partner51Safe Words, Gestures & Actions52Physical and Medical Considerations53Psychological Considerations54Update your plan to account for risks or issues you uncover55Confirm you can reach Emergency Services or your Safe Call, if needed56Safe Calls57Punishments58Aftercare59Negotiation is Not Just for New Partners60Negotiation Forms - 10
4. Risks When Using Rope
15 topics61Overview62Rope is risky edge play63*YOU* are Responsible for Your Own Safety64Injury Prevention Rule #1: Proceed at a Responsible Pace65General Safety Rules66Common Risks, Their Prevention & Treatment67Rope Marks68Rope Burn69Bruising & the R.I.C.E. Method70Musculoskeletal Stress or Damage71Breathing Issues & Positional Asphyxiation72Fainting and Related Injuries73Injuries Sustained During a Fall74Compression Injuries75Rope Hygiene - 11
5. Nerves & Circulation
11 topics76Overview77Blood Flow and Circulation Loss78When an issue is reported, is it circulation or nerves?79Nerve Compression80Nerves Diagrams and General Advice81Nerves of the Arms & Hands82Nerves of the Arms & Hands - Sensory & Motor Tests for Nerve Compression83Nerves of the Torso84Nerves of the Legs & Feet85Nerves - Respond *Immediately* to Injury or Potential Injury86Emergency Release - Cutting Rope - 12
6. Setting Up & Conducting a Scene
3 topics - 13
7. Aftercare & Post-Scene Processing
3 topics - 14
Continuing Your Rope Education
3 topics