DBRT 006: Spatial transformation

Exciting news! I have a rope bottom coming over at the end of this week, and I need to prepare! There’s nothing that gets my ass in gear as much as company coming over. Suddenly every speck of dirt becomes 10 times more visible. I need to wipe down the bathroom and vacuum before she comes over.

I’ve got a few different options when it comes to a space for tying, none of which are particularly tidy at the moment. I’m thinking I’ll start with the most open where the suspension rig is currently set up. Up to this point I haven’t spent any time making it nice, though we have had a few friends over to do a little rope. Ugh, my social life has totally fallen off the rails. But I also find myself seriously lacking in mental resources sometimes. Asynchronous communication can be so draining. I used to think I was just becoming anti-social, but now I’m thinking it might be the constant reach-ability of having a smartphone on my person at all times.  None of my conversations are ever really over, and even when I’m alone, I’m supposed to be constantly available. Even if I don’t respond to a message right away, if it’s important I’ll leave the notification at the top of my phone. I won’t dismiss it. It’s always there, even if it’s from someone I have a strained relationship with.  Every time I look at that screen, I see the conversation I’m dreading. The person I don’t want to talk to. The conversation I don’t want to have.

I need to make my life somewhere nice to be.

I need to make the rope space a nice place to be. To tie.

So, tonight I’m going to begin tidying up the rope space and just make it less dirty. A quick vacuum and wipe down will have to be enough for now. Maybe this weekend I can spend some time thinking about how I would like it to look/feel.

Adjectives for the new and improved rope space:

• Cozy
• Warm
• Inviting
• Pleasant
• Plant-filled
• Comfortable
• A nice backdrop for photos

I’m thinking some cute things to hang on the wall will be helpful. Maybe a screen or tapestry to absorb some sound and make things feel more cozy? Also, plants. I’ll probably stick to pothos as they’re the most reliable houseplants I’ve had experience with, especially when the lighting isn’t optimal. And some cushions, pillows, and blankets would be nice. Oh! Warm lights as well! Maybe fairy lights or a tall lantern lamp. Or a woven basket style lamp like that one my brother had in college…

I will continue to think about this.

This writing is part of a series called “Diary of a Baby Rope Top” by Kajira Blue, the rest of which can be found at TheDuchy.com/blogs.