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Thoughts, musings, and stories from Lazarus and Blue. A place for less technical information and more … human … stuff. While we try to keep most of TheDuchy as depersonalized as possible to keep the focus on the rope itself, there are real humans behind this thing! And we have thoughts and ideas that might be valuable to you, but don’t really fit in anywhere else on TheDuchy. This is where those thoughts will live 🙂

We will have random topics, but also ongoing series!  The first of these is:

Diary of a Baby Rope Top (#DBRT), by Kajira Blue – Blue has been learning and teaching the patterns for several years now, but in this series she goes on a journey to build her skills as a rope Top.  Being a good Top begins with understanding how to move rope, apply it to a person and a few patterns that you like, but it is sooo much more than that.  Interacting with your partner physically and emotionally, forming that interpersonal connection, learning to read them and how to react, not just with rope, but with your body, your words, your expressions, the look in your eyes…

The entries below are in reverse chronological order.


diary of a baby rope top

DBRT 016: Rubber Ball

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #16
Diary of a Baby Rope Top

DBRT 015: Sometimes I just want to stop feeling

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #15
A view of a pool and the beach at Hedonism II resort in Jamaica. An all-inclusive, clothing-optional resort.

Swinkation 2025

Hang out in Jamaica for a week at an unforgettable, sex-positive, all-inclusive resort AND learn rope! Swinkation 2025 will feature play parties, beach-tent dungeon, workshops, excursions, and more!
Diary of a Baby Rope Top

DBRT 014: I’m really good at pushing people away

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #14
Diary of a Baby Rope Top

DBRT 013: Baby’s First Rope Party

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #13
A young woman in a red bra and underwear sits on the floor with a pile of rope next to her. Illustrating her uncertainty in this entry of Diary of a Baby Rope Top

DBRT 012: Party invites and uncertainty

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #12
DBRT 011: Custom fit

DBRT 011: Custom fit

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #11
DBRT 010: Quality and the role of perfection

DBRT 010: Quality and the role of perfection

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #10
A woman in a white zentai poses with various shibari rope ties on her chest, knees, and wrists

Top 5 Best Shibari Ties for Beginners

Discover the Top 5 Best Introductory Shibari Ties in this essential guide to rope bondage for beginners. Explore Shibari safely and confidently with these easy and simple ties.
DBRT 009: Tying with Hekate for the first time

DBRT 009: Tying with Hekate for the first time

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #9
Spring has come, let’s spice things up!

Spring has come, let’s spice things up!

In this installment of Spicy Date Nights, let's spice up your love life and take advantage of the growth and change of Spring!
A woman in a hot pink dress and high heels leans her elbow on a table. She looks over at an empty chair with a sad expression.

DBRT 008: How growing closer can tear us apart

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #8
A photo of a rope performance. A woman in a red dress holds her arms behind her head while a man wraps rope around her ribcage.

DBRT 007: Surprise, a deadline!

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #7
An athletic woman dressed all in white is standing in front of a white background. She wears a tall white leather collar and has a saucy posture. Her wrists are tied in front of her, and she is showing off the rope tie to the viewer.

1-2-3 Column Ties

Is it a Double Column Tie just because it contains two wrists? Is there such thing as a Triple Column Tie?
A picture of a young woman with pale skin and brown hair sits on a wood floor. Her back is to the camera and her body is angled to the left. Natural light hits her face and body.

DBRT 006: Spatial transformation

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #6
A young woman with brown hair sits on her heels on a carpeted floor. A pile of bound hanks of rope sit in front of her.

DBRT 005: The trouble with rope bottoms…

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #5
A woman wearing black tights kneels on the floor of a sunlit room. She is pulling rope through a harness she is tying around her hips

DBRT 004: The art of the self-tie

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #4
A photo of the torso of a woman in a burgundy shirt and pink skirt. She is holding several hanks of twisted linen hemp rope.

DBRT 003: Conditioning and getting ready

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #3
A photo of a closet floor. Skirts and hangers of varying colors and textures frame a white box. A pile of clothing sits on top of the box, the ends of twisted linen hemp ropes can be seen peeking though.

DBRT 002: Picking out *my* ropes

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #2
A photo of a woman in a floral dress reclines on the edge of a black couch. One arm covers her face while the other falls to the ground, a smartphone in her hand.

DBRT 001: Why do I want to do this?

Diary of a Baby Rope Top: Entry #1
A woman has her hands in front of her in a posture much like the Penguins in the movie "Madagascar" when they say "You didn't see anything..."

Blog: Comparison is the Thief of Joy

“Comparison is the Thief of Joy” … but it doesn’t have to be!

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