A BDSM Experience and Curiosity Checklist
What is a "Hell, Yes!!"? What is a "Hell, No!"? What is a "?" Explore the list to expand your horizons!
A Framework for Successful BDSM Encounters
If you include these important elements, you are much more likely to have a successful BDSM (or other) encounter.
Adapting Ties for Various Bodies & Needs
Actions speak louder than words. Demonstrate that you care for your partner by adapting your ties for their particular needs. Most ties can be modified to work with a wide range of different body types using only a few techniques.
Aftercare & Post-Scene Processing
The few minutes immediately after your scene are incredibly important in creating a wonderful overall experience.
The RTTHH is one of the fastest, most reliable ways to quickly anchor a rope that is under tension.
This is a very simple and popular harness and a good first layer upon which to build additional bondage
What choices you have when two ropes cross each other -- Twist, Crossing Hitch, Cow Hitch -- and how they are related
A very fast, very stable single column tie. Once you master it, it takes only 20-30 seconds to tie
This single column is very fast to create and apply. While technically a sliding knot, properly applied it will not cinch down
Members Only - Suspension - What type of rope do you need for your suspension support lines ("up lines")
Classic (Square Knot) Double Column
When a rigger says simply “Double Column” this is probably what they are talking about (or you can use any DC you like).
Consent is the Cornerstone of Everything We Do. Without it, much of what we do would legally be assault.
Continuing Your Rope Education
When people engage in BDSM activities, they put tremendous trust in each other. There are risks. You need to understand those risks and manage them.
Flogger Forge - A Cored Square Knot or Cobra Knot can be a great way to create a rope strap or unusual texture for your Falls
Crossing Hitch (Munter Hitch or Nodome)
A Crossing Hitch, or Nodome, is used to anchor two cords that cross each other. Often used in shibari to make a tie more stable
A double coin knot is a decorative way of attaching two strands of rope together. Great for decorative Karadas
Extended Lark’s Head Double Column
This is the Extended Double Column. It can bind two things that cannot be place closely together, like your elbows
There are many people out there that can help give you face-to-face training and mentorship. How do you find them?
Finding a Potential Rope Partner
If you are looking for a partner with whom to explore rope, go where such people may be more easily found!
A fisherman's knot is used to semi-permanently join the ends of two ropes together
Frictions are used to connect two bands of rope together tightly so that they support each other and don't slip out of position
Here are a number of ideas how to use Easy ties to make a gift of yourself...
This simple wrap of rope around an object is a basic building block of many other knots
When instructions just say "lock it off" it usually means that it doesn't really matter how. Here are a few common ways.
Understanding how to move rope efficiently, add more if you need to, use up extra rope at the end and modify a tie for different body types are all important skills.
Like high heels on your partner? Want to keep them from kicking them off?
This body harness, with its diamond patterns and tight lacing, is lovely and stimulating for both parties
This reverse-tension double column is simple to apply and is snug and secure.
This is one of the simplest sliding (collapsing) knots. It should not be used for bondage directly, but is often the first step in other ties.
This reverse-tension single column is attractive, lies relatively flat, and is very secure.
If you plan to have any tension or load on your double column, you need to do so in such a way that the cords of the cuffs don't cinch down more tightly
Master the 4 Fundamental Knots
These four knots are the fundamental building blocks of shibari. Understand these, then go on to use them to build core rope bondage techniques like the Single Column, Double Column and more.
The Matthew Walker Knot - a great rope end or decorative knot. This shows how to tie it for 3, 4, 5, & 6-strands
Rope is already a risky activity. Putting rope around the neck even more so. Yet, some people *do* do it. The beginner's rule about neck rope is "Don't", but as people advance, if they want to explore neck rope, a more nuanced set of rules is needed...
Understanding nerves and circulation and how they may be impacted by rope is critical to reducing the risk of rope bondage.
This simple knot is commonly used to finish the end of a rope so it does not fray or as a stop knot
This attractive harness can be lots of fun for religious- or occult-themed scenes.
Rope bondage is not safe. There are risks. Your #1 priority is to make sure you understand and manage those risks.
Information helpful for planning out your suspension scene, including additional safety information
Setting Up & Conducting a Scene
The time has arrived for the scene you negotiated and planned. Take time beforehand to set things up for success!
This classic chest harness, known and practiced by riggers throughout the world, is simple, secure and, when applied properly, can be used for suspension.
A person with SFN may experience pain or other sensations in ways or to degrees that you might not expect.
This single-column tie requires no tail pulls and can therefore be applied when one end of the rope is already attached to something!
Pretty much the most basic knot for holding to ends of rope together. Used to "tie off" or "finish off" many ties
When someone says just “Single Column” with no other name, this is probably what they are talking about
Suspension – Top or Bottom, Are you ready for suspension?
Who can suspend? Who can be suspended? Are you ready?
Box Ties are popular with rope enthusiasts. Learn more about this position and things you can do to make it more comfortable.
Commonly known by the awful name "Crotch Rope", this simple waist harness has a little teasing feature. Think of it as an un-chastity belt made from rope :)
"The Scene" or "The Community" is a vibrant subculture. Like all subcultures, they have expectations that you need to understand and respect if you are to be successful.
Vetting a Potential Rope Partner
So you met someone that you think you might like to do rope with. Vet them first! See if they are known to the local community and what reputation they have.
This forward-tension double column is simple to apply and is snug and secure.