A BDSM Experience and Curiosity Checklist
What is a "Hell, Yes!!"? What is a "Hell, No!"? What is a "?" Explore the list to expand your horizons!
A Framework for Successful BDSM Encounters
If you include these important elements, you are much more likely to have a successful BDSM (or other) encounter.
Some people are just here for the artistry, some people want to learn more. Here is a good place to start for both new and experienced players.
Adapting Ties for Various Bodies & Needs
Actions speak louder than words. Demonstrate that you care for your partner by adapting your ties for their particular needs. Most ties can be modified to work with a wide range of different body types using only a few techniques.
Aftercare & Post-Scene Processing
The few minutes immediately after your scene are incredibly important in creating a wonderful overall experience.
This is one simple way to tie your partner into a cross-legged position!
This is one way to tie your partner for suspension in a cross-legged position!
This attractive harness was created by the inimitable Kaysea. It features lines that radiate from the center of the chest. It inspires the image of energy. Perhaps it invokes Chakras, like the Heart Chakra: Anahata
The RTTHH is one of the fastest, most reliable ways to quickly anchor a rope that is under tension.
Anchoring a Horizontal Pole to a Hard Point
How to anchor a horizontal pole of bamboo or a pipe to overhead hard points
This is how to properly apply the various handcuff knots on this site, making them almost inescapable!
This tie binds your partner’s arms in armbinder “sleeves” at the side of their body.
There are *many* ways to tie your partner into a ball. This tutorial shows you over 1600 of them…
Here are a few examples of tying your partner into a ball. Do the 'Ball Ties' tutorial first!
The use of bamboo in a bondage scene is evocative. This course walks you through the concepts from beginner to advanced
Bamboo Bondage – Anchoring a pole to your partner
Two ways to attach a pole to your partner so they cannot slide it out of position
Takezao Shibari - Bondage with a single pole of bamboo - Elbow lock version
A variety of bondage frames and a few ideas of what you can do with them!
Takezao Shibari - Bondage with a single pole of bamboo - Elbow lock version
Very fast friction. Great for around wider hard points like bamboo or pipe
This simple but attractive chest harness is composed of a series of horizontal wraps that are later connected by vertical components running down the outside of the chest.
How to add anchor points to a mattress or bed with no attachment points. And how to use them!
This is a very simple and popular harness and a good first layer upon which to build additional bondage
A attractive box tie with no lower chest strap, leaving that area open for sensation and other play.
Here is one technique to integrate two cuffs into a single rope belt, making it a Bondage Belt :)
This bondage belt features to integrated wrist cuffs to keep your partner's hands controlled, plus a little teaser to make them wish they weren't!
This tutorial gives you the building blocks so you can design your own bra!
What choices you have when two ropes cross each other -- Twist, Crossing Hitch, Cow Hitch -- and how they are related
Building Blocks – Simple Strap Nodes
Here are three common approaches to creating nodes when making simple, one-wrap straps … and why you might choose one over another.
Whether you would like to hold your hips up or be more comfortable in suspension, core strength is key
The classic bulldog harness, done with rope. This time with a decorative X back!
Tie your partner’s wrists behind their neck in such a way that their elbows stick up like bunny ears!
A very fast, very stable single column tie. Once you master it, it takes only 20-30 seconds to tie
A very fast, very stable single column tie. Once you master it, it takes only 20-30 seconds to tie
This single column is very fast to create and apply. While technically a sliding knot, properly applied it will not cinch down
Add a high-fashion twist to your party outfit with a rope corset with optional garters!
A method for putting bands around the thighs as a starting point for other layers of bondage.
Chair Tie Example – Armless Chair
How to apply a few well-known techniques to tie your partner to an armless kitchen chair!
Chair Tie Example – Folding Chair
How to apply a few well-known techniques to tie your partner to a folding chair!
Another way to do a chair tie using nothing but easy ties ... this one with their legs up!
A modular mini-course showing many ways to tie your partner to a chair!
A lovely, decorative chest harness build from simple twists and Cow Hitches
Members Only - Suspension - What type of rope do you need for your suspension support lines ("up lines")
Classic (Square Knot) Double Column
When a rigger says simply “Double Column” this is probably what they are talking about (or you can use any DC you like).
The Cleopatra Chest Weave is a wonderful harness with many fun variations. You can keep it simple or get quite complex.
This decorative pattern is an extension of the popular design also seen in the Double Coin Knot and can be used to create fashion garments.
Use the Coin Chain Pattern to create a simple fashion chest harness.
Consent is the Cornerstone of Everything We Do. Without it, much of what we do would legally be assault.
Continuing Your Rope Education
When people engage in BDSM activities, they put tremendous trust in each other. There are risks. You need to understand those risks and manage them.
This is one simple method to add gauntlets to your outfit or that of your partner
Flogger Forge - A Cored Square Knot or Cobra Knot can be a great way to create a rope strap or unusual texture for your Falls
Learn the building blocks so you can easily design your own rope corset!
An unusual box tie that holds its shape with straps going over the shoulders instead of around the chest like you commonly see in TK variants
Crossing Hitch (Munter Hitch or Nodome)
A Crossing Hitch, or Nodome, is used to anchor two cords that cross each other. Often used in shibari to make a tie more stable
Flogger Forge - This technique creates a heavy and hard knot at the end of your falls.
This attention-getting waist harness features a zig-zag pattern that helps distribute pressure across a greater area
This variation on Gote Shibari (aka "Takate Kote") allows you to use wider bands for more comfort!
This immensely cool variation on the Hishi Karada features three rows of knots and three rows of diamonds!
For … some reason … many of us *love* to have our partner bent over. Well, here is one way to make sure they cannot stand fully straight up again without permission.
A double coin knot is a decorative way of attaching two strands of rope together. Great for decorative Karadas
A great tie for people with flexibility issues, or just for the fun look!
This attention-getting waist harness features a zig-zag pattern that helps distribute pressure across a greater area
The Ebi gets its name from the shape your partner is twisted into at the end
This sexy evening dress let's your partner feel your ropes, but still move freely.
Extended Lark’s Head Double Column
This is the Extended Double Column. It can bind two things that cannot be place closely together, like your elbows
Fast Load-bearing Double Column
A rapid Double Column that will not clamp down on the wrists if the tail is put under tension.
There are many people out there that can help give you face-to-face training and mentorship. How do you find them?
Finding a Potential Rope Partner
If you are looking for a partner with whom to explore rope, go where such people may be more easily found!
This fun pattern – based on the fisherman’s harness – can be run down to the knees to make walking a little difficult, or down to the ankles to severely limit it!
A fisherman's knot is used to semi-permanently join the ends of two ropes together
This arms-in, arms-in-front, suspendable harness is a go-to for many riggers.
This tutorial shows how to make a simple rope flogger using nothing but Double Overhand Knots and a few wraps!
This single column is very fast to create and apply. It is not intended to be secure; it is more intended to help your partner stay in position
This simple modification of the Unchastity Belt allows you to install a wand vibrator
Foundations of Rope Bondage (Class)
An instructor resource intended for those teaching an introductory class on Rope Bondage
Frictions are used to connect two bands of rope together tightly so that they support each other and don't slip out of position
Frictions are methods for attaching suspension support lines to anchor points in a way that will not slip when holding the weight of an entire person
A frog tie is just a double column tie applied in such a way so as to tie the ankle to the thigh
Here is a simple extension of the Hishi Karada to run down the full body
This classic tie is used to bind the ankle tightly to the thigh. It's great for floor bondage and for suspensions
Here are a number of ideas how to use Easy ties to make a gift of yourself...
A gorgeous geometric leg design great for using up extra rope or very alluring on its own!
Gote Shibari (aka the "Takate Kote" or "TK") is an very popular box tie used by riggers around the world!
This unique Single Column tie has the force run directly out the bottom of the foot, instead of off to the side. It is great for spread-eagle ties and for inverted suspensions.
This is a single-column tie, designed for the foot & ankle. It is based on the Gravity Boot, but don't use this version for suspension. It is great for tying someone to a bed spread-eagle :)
This simple wrap of rope around an object is a basic building block of many other knots
When instructions just say "lock it off" it usually means that it doesn't really matter how. Here are a few common ways.
Understanding how to move rope efficiently, add more if you need to, use up extra rope at the end and modify a tie for different body types are all important skills.
A corset made up of multiple strands of rope so you can easily make it multi-color! I have a thing for Harley Quinn (huge surprise, I'm sure) so my color choices are an homage to her inimitable style. :)
Hashira (Vertical Beam) Shibari
A few of the *many* ways to tie your partner to a vertical beam, column, post, pole, etc...
This Karada features an attractive heart-shaped pattern over the heart and and inverted heart just below.
Most people can't touch their behind their back, but even if they can't, you can still do a wickedly effective and hawt elbow tie!
Like high heels on your partner? Want to keep them from kicking them off?
Like high heels on your partner? Want to keep them from kicking them off?
Here is another technique for tracing diamonds across your partner; these diamonds wider than those in the Hishi Karada
This body harness, with its diamond patterns and tight lacing, is lovely and stimulating for both parties
This is a body harness with integrated armbinder! It is inspired by the Hishi Karada
An Accessible Hogtie is one in which you can still access your partner's sex with relative ease
The hog tie is one of the most simple full-body ties. It can be extremely challenging for the bottom, so the top should understand a few key things.
This technique allows you to tie someone in less than 60 seconds. This is a modification of an ancient Hojōjutsu form
This technique allows you to tie someone in less than 60 seconds. This is the real version of an ancient Hojōjutsu form
The Hon Kikkou is a chest & arm harness that features an attractive hexagon pattern.
HwG-Paris Marquise Chest Harness
This elegant top makes heavy use of the Cow Hitch and is a gorgeous companion to the HwG-Paris Marquise Hip Harness
HwG-Paris Marquise Hip Harness
An attractive hip harness that leaves your partner entirely accessible!
Isosceles Cock Ring/Strap-on Harness
This simple technique features attractive geometric symmetry. It can be used as a cock ring or as a strap-on to add a dildo to your partner.
This is a box tie in the style of the Hishi Karada, but with nothing going between the legs :)
Restrict your partner's ability to walk at any real speed with a hobble skirt. This one is in the Karada style and has many options!
Modify a Karada to include a cool mini skirt and open access to your partner's bits
This "strappy" hip harness leaves things in the middle free for use... This is the original version
This "strappy" hip harness leaves things in the middle free for use... This version is more stable and holds its shape better as your partner moves
This body harness is very similar to the Hishi Karada, but instead of diamond patterns it has hexagons :)
Neck Corset, developed by world-renowned Shibari master, Hajime Kinoko
This reverse-tension double column is simple to apply and is snug and secure.
This is one of the simplest sliding (collapsing) knots. It should not be used for bondage directly, but is often the first step in other ties.
This reverse-tension single column is attractive, lies relatively flat, and is very secure.
Lashings connect two pieces of bamboo (two sticks, two dowels, whatever) together ... used to create bondage frames
This is fast and can be made wonderfully tight. Unlike the majority of what we do, it starts at one end of a rope not in the middle.
If you plan to have any tension or load on your double column, you need to do so in such a way that the cords of the cuffs don't cinch down more tightly
Once you know this simple and versatile tie, all sorts of ropey fashions are possible!
Once you know this simple and versatile tie, all sorts of ropey fashions are possible!
Once you know this simple and versatile tie, all sorts of ropey fashions are possible!
This tie keeps your partner’s legs open by binding the knees up near the shoulders.
Master the 4 Fundamental Knots
These four knots are the fundamental building blocks of shibari. Understand these, then go on to use them to build core rope bondage techniques like the Single Column, Double Column and more.
This is attractive corset is very flexible and has many variations to fit a wide variety of rope-based fashions!
The Matthew Walker Knot - a great rope end or decorative knot. This shows how to tie it for 3, 4, 5, & 6-strands
This armbinder uses the “Mayfly” concept of opposing tension, which creates a lovely diamond effect between our partner’s arms.
Leverage the Doggy Style Harness and tie yourself to your partner for a wild ride!
This is pretty much the same as the Quick Cuffs, but with more loops so it looks a little cooler
Rope is already a risky activity. Putting rope around the neck even more so. Yet, some people *do* do it. The beginner's rule about neck rope is "Don't", but as people advance, if they want to explore neck rope, a more nuanced set of rules is needed...
Understanding nerves and circulation and how they may be impacted by rope is critical to reducing the risk of rope bondage.
This is a method to tie a slip knot onto a single column using only one hand ...in less than 5 seconds!
This simple knot is commonly used to finish the end of a rope so it does not fray or as a stop knot
This tutorial lets you practice all the skills you need for full suspension, but with the safety net of letting your partner keep one leg on the ground!
Here is one simple way to pin the arms to the sides. You would normally want to use this in combination with other ties. For example, you could use Double Columns to connect the wrists to the thighs
Very attractive and somewhat unusual, this harness can be a fun binding for your favorite witch. :)
This attractive harness can be lots of fun for religious- or occult-themed scenes.
This attractive, unusual, surprisingly fast and secure form of bondage holds your partner's hands in the classic prayer position
This quick-capture knot (takes less than a minute!) is very difficult to escape from when properly applied
This is a quick-capture knot that is can be quickly and easily adjusted on the fly by the top without untying it, but it cannot be adjusted by the bottom
This is a reverse-tension single column that only requires one tail pull! (Most require 2 or 3)
This is a simple and rapid method of adding a rope collar and leash to your partner.
This rope anchor allows tension on the bondage to be adjusted tighter by either Top or bottom, but only the Top can loosen it!!
One method of creating your own custom-fitted strap-on with rope and a ring
Rope bondage is not safe. There are risks. Your #1 priority is to make sure you understand and manage those risks.
A simple and attractive chest harness that features a fun V pattern and can optionally include the arms.
Using a few basic building blocks, you can create your own ties. Here is one way of making a Breast Cage
Information helpful for planning out your suspension scene, including additional safety information
This tutorial shows how a simple technique can be used to create wonderful, creative effects.
Serpentine Party Dress – Xposed
A few modifications to the Serpentine Party Dress that leave your partner more accessible!
Server’s Hand Catch (Limb Binding)
Also known as the “Chicken Wing”, this is a special form of Limb Binding that keeps your partner's hand extended backward
Setting Up & Conducting a Scene
The time has arrived for the scene you negotiated and planned. Take time beforehand to set things up for success!
This classic chest harness, known and practiced by riggers throughout the world, is simple, secure and, when applied properly, can be used for suspension.
A modification of the classic Shinju, designed to contain and showcase … M.O.U.S.
This tutorial covers a general binding technique that can be modified in many ways. In this example, we will create a “sleep sack”, great for keeping your partner in a helpless bundle!
A person with SFN may experience pain or other sensations in ways or to degrees that you might not expect.
This single-column tie requires no tail pulls and can therefore be applied when one end of the rope is already attached to something!
An instructor resource for those teaching speed bondage based on the Prusik knot
The core information on creating a wide variety of spider web chest harnesses.
Here is one way (of many) to create a Spider Web Chest Harness.
Here is one way (of many) to create a Spider Web Chest Harness.
Here is one way (of many) to create a Spider Web Chest Harness.
This classic tie is used to bind the ankle tightly to the thigh and distribute the force of the tie across the entire leg
Pretty much the most basic knot for holding to ends of rope together. Used to "tie off" or "finish off" many ties
When someone says just “Single Column” with no other name, this is probably what they are talking about
Very attractive and somewhat unusual, this harness can be a fun binding for your favorite witch. :)
This harness employs an innovative pentagram pattern to form a beautiful star
One method to tie your partner's hands in front of them. This is the Gote Shibari or TK tied with the stem in the front ... and a few additional twists
A simple, reusable, washable, custom-fitted harness that can be used to hold an insertable inside a person.
Stretching for … Access from Behind
If you like being taken from behind, it is fun to have good hip flexibility so you can bend over comfortably
The key to being able to do a box tie or to get your elbows close together is flexibility in your *shoulders*
Here is a technique for making a String Bikini (or 2-String Bikini) with rope!
Members Only - This is an application of the ideas taught in the Bra tutorial. This time we create a sunset!
Minimalist suspenders and garters that can be a fun base for other bondage!
Suspension – Evaluating a Hard Point
Suspension - Evaluating a Hard Point. Is it safe to trust with your partner's life?
How to attach a suspension load-bearing support line to a harness, whether one point, 2 pts, 3 pts or more...
Suspension – The Emergency Munter Hitch
This allows a rigger to lower their partner to the ground safely and gently in *seconds* in an emergency.
Suspension – Top or Bottom, Are you ready for suspension?
Who can suspend? Who can be suspended? Are you ready?
This update to the classic chest harness is simple, secure and is specifically designed to provide strong support when doing suspensions.
The rope dress from Suspiria (2018)’s Volk dance! A great disturbing costume for Halloween or gothic-themed party!
This pattern can be used to create a heart shape on your partner’s chest and (optionally) middle of their back. There are *many* variations on this. I have included a few ideas below for you to explo
A simple waist harness that is an excellent choice for seated or face-up suspensions
This attractive upper-chest harness is easy to create and is a great base layer for attaching more layers of rope.
The asymmetry of this alluring design accentuates your partner's hips
Box Ties are popular with rope enthusiasts. Learn more about this position and things you can do to make it more comfortable.
This eel-controlling tie, properly applied, is virtually impossible to escape from!
A simple rope G-String made with the Solomon Bar ... it can have a surprising hidden purpose!
Members Only - This is an application of the ideas taught in the Bra tutorial. This time we create a kind of Tube Top!
Commonly known by the awful name "Crotch Rope", this simple waist harness has a little teasing feature. Think of it as an un-chastity belt made from rope :)
Here is how to add Wrist Cuffs to an Unchastity Belt after-the-fact!
"The Scene" or "The Community" is a vibrant subculture. Like all subcultures, they have expectations that you need to understand and respect if you are to be successful.
Vetting a Potential Rope Partner
So you met someone that you think you might like to do rope with. Vet them first! See if they are known to the local community and what reputation they have.
Woven Hip Harness – One-Sided – Locked with Half-hitch
This attractive harness is fast to tie, looks amazing and is suitable for horizontal side suspensions on one side (hip weave side down). This version is locked with a Half Hitch at the back.
Woven Hip Harness – One-Sided – Rosette
This attractive harness is fast to tie, looks amazing and is suitable for horizontal side suspensions on one side (hip weave side down). This version is locked with a woven rosette on the hip.
Woven Hip Harness – Two-Sided – Rosette
This attractive harness is fast to tie, looks amazing and is suitable for horizontal side suspensions on either side, and for vertical suspensions with the chest above the hips. This version is locked with woven rosettes on the hips.
This forward-tension double column is simple to apply and is snug and secure.
Your First Suspension – Basic Seated Suspension
This may be your first suspension. This tutorial finally gets your partner up in the air!